How to be nice to your inner child? (where to start?)

Aren't you tired from thinking life so much? From trying to mould yourself into being someone when you are in fact already someone? A human who is enough just being human. A human who has the time to be human. But what being human is? One might answer being human is everything and anything. From coping to building cities, to being violent and surviving are all human things. So, perhaps, it would help to narrow down our question to what being a HEALTHY human is. A healthy happy little human. We're going to strip it down to its pure beingness.

To be is to breathe. To breathe is to feel whole. To feel is to be human. Breathing and feeling and being one with everything else. A state of unity in one sense. A blissful state. A steady foundation to digest the ever increasing troubles of today. Without it one is just lost and consumed by what is out there. It's hard. It is so hard sustaining that gentle humanness. Though we all have it, we are all blocked in varying extents, suffering. Being pushed by life and push we make ourselves to prevail in this mess. I would know. I was a great pusher myself. Always striving to be the best at the cost of my health, no breaks. Just forcefully pushing myself to make something of myself. Something, someone, a career of some kind. Something that would give me value. Make some sense of my life. Something. I couldn't stand just being me at any time of my life. Breathing and feeling could never be enough. But guess what, nothing happy ever came out of pushing myself. Nothing ever happened despite the efforts. Nothing. No happy achievements. No sense of joy. Just misery and pain. So I know that nothing happy can ever come out of pushing ourselves. Year after year, same story, same longing to be someone and give my life some sense and no rest. I am still tired and sad from living that way. But I stopped it. I had to. At some point you can worked yourself so hard that you have nothing to loose but an incredibly difficult life. So what's the alternative then? Being nice to ourselves? How? All we ever knew is how to destroy ourselves one way or the other. The coping mechanisms are endless and so is our drive to survive the hard way even if the danger is no longer there. So how does one become nice to oneself? I had no idea how or at least I thought that. Because that wonderful body of mine knew where to start. In fact, it was telling me all my life how it felt and what it needed but I regarded it as a problem that was stopping me from becoming that "someone". So I fought it rather than listened to it. But when I started listening to it, a sort of magic happened. For the body holds everything. Literally everything. It stores so much information. From pain to joy, it will show you where to go. And it wants to show you. That body of mine just wants to be felt all the time. And so does yours. It wants to be heard. That's why it screams so hard through various symptoms and pains. It wants your attention. It wants your care. So it will tell you loud and clear where to start when you decide to be nice to it. Taking your time to be with it. It is there for you. It is there to show you how. So no need to think about it. Just tune into that wonderful body that you have. And let's start there. See what's coming up. And breathe. And make it a daily practice to check with your body on where it is at. And practice. For one day a shallow breath will become a deeper breath. And numbness will change into a heightened sense of self. And a daily practice like that will once become your whole life. Where being human is just enough.

Thank you for taking time to read my first blog post in the name of the inner child.

I am Blossom Hay and I am learning how to be one.

Kisses,

Bloss xoxo